Growing Pains

Pain must co-exist with happiness. These emotions are tied to relationships, and some even say it isn't worth it without the pain. Maybe we think of this as a type of growing pain; necessary for development. But what happens when the line between 'growing pain' and real pain blurs? Will we know when enough is enough? Pain feels good, it draws excitement. The not-knowing of feelings and the craziness we exude when we're left in the dark is alluring. Although, eventually it becomes overwhelming and we end up consumed - either with rage or loneliness. In reality, we are all in S&M relationships, at least to a certain extent. And this line that blurs is what separates the rage from the excitement, it prevents the two from becoming intermingled. Crossing the line doesn't just lead to consummation, but it writes a path to self-harm. The late nights wondering what they're doing. Pulling your hair out at the lies. Worrying if you'll ever really be a part of their life. Now this doesn't just occur when a significant other defies your wishes once, this happens over years of distrust, years of pain. But when does this once grow-worthy pain become something truly painful? Is it the difference of six months to seven? Or was the pain never going to be out grown?