We All Lose in Games and Love

The game 'Say Uncle' reminds me of saying I love you for the first time. Don't know the game? Well, if you've never played Say Uncle as a kid, here's the gist; someone bends your arm behind your back harder and harder until you say Uncle. And the person who wins, who speaks first, holds all the power. It's sort of like saying I love you in a blossoming relationship. There's only silence until someone cracks. Like the end of phone calls and departures, when you don't really know what to say. I love you is too much, I like you sounds weird, I miss you sounds needy, so what do you say in the silent gaps? You also risk losing all the power if you say it first, if you mumble the three words. You lose the power because you're the one who needs them. You transform from the fun, relaxed girlfriend to the powerless girl unable to control her feelings. But should we control them? Should we pretend we don't feel what we do? The only solution would be to say it at the same time, and well, we all know that no one ever feels the exact same as another. That's the reality behind love, and that's the reality behind Say Uncle; you lose either way. You say it first, and you become powerless. You say it second, and you lost the chance to own up to your feelings. You say Uncle first, and you're weak. You're the one breaking someone's arm, well you lost a friend - and possibly your sanity. So what's next? If we're all losers, what's the next step? Do we fight the feelings and the urge to verbally spill everywhere or do we admit that we're all losers? We win some, we lose some. And I'd rather lose power than someone I love. Wouldn't you?